Today, divorce is at its highest rate in history, more women find this part of a traditional wedding vow to be a complete joke. Women who have been treated like trash in marriage spit at this word, ‘obey' and they become vulnerable with the sense that marriage doesn't work and cohabitation looks like a far better idea. But what does the Bible say about the word obey, and are women really supposed to be slaves to their husbands?

In the Bible we find women doing things that don't necessarily look like she's obeying anyone. Remember Tamar who tricked her father-in-law Judah, into sleeping with her because he refused to give her to Shelah, his third son and she conceived two sons (twins)? Tamar did what she knew to be justly right and at the risk of her life (Genesis 38:13-30 ). How about Rebekah, who told Jacob to take Esau's place? All of these situations look like women in the Bible had a mind of their own but at the same time perhaps they were really obeying God.

So what does the Bible say about obeying a husband, well lets go to 1 Peter 3:1 , "In like manner, you married women, be submissive to your own husbands," and on to 3:6. "It was thus that Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord. And you are now her true daughters if you do right and let nothing terrify you." Sarah said my lord (Abraham), when God visited Abraham and said she will conceive a son, and she said this not because she was a slave in marriage but because she respected Abraham.

If you are a man and you're reading this, the only way a woman can submit to a man and call him lord, is if the man himself is obeying his Lord, God in Heaven, and hears His voice, on every matter concerning his life! Abraham walked and went where God told him and Abraham obeyed God, and Sarah trusted Abraham because he heard the voice of God. Therefore, if a husband walks in disobedience to God and betrays his own wife, breaking his vow, the wife will do the same and submission will never be a reality in the marriage. When Abraham went into Hagar it was because of the voice of Sarah, and we see that both Abraham and Sarah respected and loved each other, at that moment it looked like Abraham obeyed Sarah.

In closing, submission can only come by the favor and power of the Holy Spirit, which means that we cannot create a successful marriage without the One who created marriage. Women will not submit to a fool and If abuse and betrayal is the foundation of a marriage and God is not favored nor obeyed, the end result will be divorce. God intended for marriage to be happy, joyful, and pleasurable for both the man and the woman. No one should feel bound by their spouse and controlled by their spouse and only trust and faithfulness can be the true foundation in a marriage.

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